Why Do I Have To Do Everything?

Have you seen those social media rants with Moms sharing their frustration and resentment asking “Why do I have to do Everything”? Life can sometimes feel like a whirlwind, leaving us grappling with an overflowing to-do list. And if someone in the family would ask to help, or even just do the chores you’d already assigned them, you’d feel a little less like a doormat. I’ve been there, and there are ways to regain your balance (download my free guide for even more tips). Let’s explore some strategies that can help ease the weight of an overwhelming to-do list.

You don’t have to do everything

Prioritize with Purpose

When your to-do list seems endless, prioritize with intention. Identify the most important tasks that truly need your attention. Tackling these tasks first can provide a sense of accomplishment and alleviate some stress. If items just don’t seem to get done, consider cutting them loose. Instead of taunting you by lingering on your list, decide not to include them or ask someone else to.

Delegate and Share

You don’t have to bear the burden alone. Delegate tasks to others, whether it’s family members, colleagues, or professionals. Sharing responsibilities lightens your load and fosters a sense of collaboration.

Delegating also allows others to learn new skills. This is especially relevant when you’re delegating to your kids. Give them things that will serve them when they leave home, like doing their own laundry. Delegating also shows others how you want to be treated. Instead of being the default task doer, take a pass and let someone else step up.

Learn to Say No

Recognize your limits and learn to say no when needed. It’s okay to set boundaries and avoid taking on more than you can handle. It’s even ok to do this with your family. Let them know you’re not available at the last minute or that you can’t just drop everything for them. As you stand your ground more consistently, they will learn to plan ahead or get things done another way. Instead of telling yourself I have to do everything, just say No.

Reflect on Purpose

Remind yourself why certain tasks are on your to-do list. Reflect on the purpose behind each task to rekindle motivation and focus. If you don’t have a good answer, then maybe it’s time to drop it. We can easily fill our time with stuff, and then get overwhelmed. Revisit your to-do list regularly to ensure that each item on it has a significant purpose.

How you do everything

Embrace “Me” Time

It’s crucial to make time for yourself amidst the chaos. Schedule moments of self-care to recharge your batteries. Engage in activities you enjoy, whether it’s reading, meditating, or picking up a new hobby. Adding in something can seem counter intuitive, but when you have something to look forward to your energy isn’t so focused on the have to’s and you feel happier overall.

I recommend putting yourself at the top and focus on your own needs first thing. This way you can be more responsive and less reactive throughout your day. Read my previous post on exploring a new hobby for ideas.

Question Perfection

The pursuit of perfection can contribute to feeling overwhelmed. Remember that it’s okay not to do everything perfectly. Embrace the concept of “good enough” and focus on progress instead. This is especially important to remember when delegating. Don’t get caught up in the whether something is completed the way you would on the first try, or even the fifth.

Mindful Approach

Approach each task mindfully. Focus on one thing at a time instead of getting lost in a sea of tasks. Mindfulness helps you stay present and reduces feelings of being scattered. This includes turning off notifications so that you aren’t constantly being pulled away from what you’re working on.

Conclusion

Remember, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed at times. Life’s demands can be challenging, but you have the strength to navigate them. Usually you don’t have to do everything, but you’re deciding to. By implementing these strategies, you’re taking steps toward regaining your balance and finding a sense of peace amidst the chaos. You’re not alone on this journey, and with time, patience, and self-compassion, you’ll find the equilibrium you seek.